I believe our generation has a lot more knowledge about relationships than our previous generation. We are more educated about the interactions between two people, we are more morally educated. But yet we are also more likely to manipulate this. We know what's right and wrong but there are still those who do it anyway, those who cheat. But strangely enough, I believe it's better than being ignorant: Doing it and not knowing you're wrong. If they know they're wrong, maybe they have more of a chance of changing.
A few years back I was still believing in fairytales, of simple innocent love. But I have grown and I have seen the people around me. I have been exposed to the fact that 'friends with benefits' exists and is actually very common. The first time I heard about this concept was when that movie came out. Yes, that one with Mila Kunis and Justin Timberlake. And that was when? Only a little less than 2 years ago? I thought the whole 'friends with benefits' was a concept some person thought of just for the movie. Innocent naive me right?
Well turns out 'friends with benefits' has become very common in our society. It doesn't have to go to the same extent as the movie to be classified as friends with benefits. It is also friends with benefits when it's just making-out but with no emotional attachment. Friends with benefits is when it's physical but with no emotional attachment, that's the enjoyment people get out of it. Emotional attachment is when it hurts. I realised that this concept is beyond just in a movie, and is everywhere around me. If I was still an innocent child I would have looked down upon these people but I'm not, so I don't. That is how they find enjoyment and since it's mutual, there is no need to look down on them. Though it is a new absurd way to find enjoyment I must say. The new age of 'hook-ups' and 'friends with benefits'. These are new forms of relationships. It's not love.
Facebook even has a relationship status for it: 'complicated'. The in between stage of you're single and you're dating. But to be honest, 'dating' doesn't mean there's love. Our generation jumps into relationships so early. Love is for the mature, it's when you see someone for their greatness as well as their flaws and that you are mature enough to accept them for all these flaws. And there's a difference between ignoring the flaws and accepting the flaws. Ignoring the flaws is when you're in the early stages of a relationship, when you are completely infatuated with them and see only their greatness. Everything about them seems perfect, you make excuses for their flaws. That's not called accepting them. When you truly accept their flaws, it's when you see their flaws as something beautiful, because it is a part of them, a part of the person you love. Love is not blind, crushes are. You see the clearest when you are in love.
It this new kind of 'relationship' good or bad? I don't think it's that easy to classify. This discussion could lead to sex before marriage and the fact that it is 'playing around with new life', a whole new massive topic to discuss.
And I mentioned something about Facebook. This social media has helped reflect as well as facilitate this new 'relationship'. I don't believe in the relationships status function of Facebook. For me it seems very superficial. Because I see it all the time, in a relationship one day and single another day. It doesn't seem to hold any meaning. So I will never touch that button. I don't like the fact that that is how people find out about the relationship either. That nothing is official until it's Facebook official. I don't like that at all. Facebook official degrades it in my point of view. Many people love it, so I'm probably offending a lot of people. But this is just my thoughts. And yes, this Facebook discussion can lead to a whole new post. Maybe something I will dedicate a whole post about, one day on this blog.
The point of this post, however, was for me to express my findings and observations about the new age of 'relationships'. If you don't agree with them, that's your opinion. This is mine.
Anyway, for me, I'm too emotional to be able to play it like some of my friends. Too traditional as well. But it's interesting observing it all from the side. Sometimes I wished I was capable of being emotionless, so then I could never be hurt by a boy. But I'm not, I can't play it like them. I'll just be standing here on the side. Waiting for someone who's either finished playing and ready to get emotional, or just someone who doesn't believe in 'playing' to begin with. Either way, I'll be here doing my own thing. Finding enjoyment in healthier and more productive ways, like blogging :D
Add: A thought that has sparked in my mind. Why can't these people in such complicated relationships just 'hook up' with strangers at nightclubs, why friends? Is there more thrill and more enjoyment out of it? Isn't there technically more emotion with friends? Hmmmmm, I don't know, I guess I just don't understand.