DT: Love isn't complicated, people are

Destined for Different Me's

We fall for who we think are worthy...

One
by Khomenko

Falling for someone isn't hard. We just have to give them the chance. It's a constant battle between the mind and the heart. We have crushes, where our heart is screaming YES but our minds are screaming NO. And then we have pursuers, where our heart is shouting NO but our mind may be shouting YES. I have been posed with the idea that there is no such thing as 'the one', or 'the destined one'. There is only different stages of 'you' and different stages of 'people for you'. At 15 you may fall for a boy who gives you flowers every week and shares his lunch with you. You love him because at that stage in your life, he was the best you could find. You two could grow up and love each other forever, get married and have children and never part until death. Or one of you could get bored, see that there is 'better' out there because you both have grown. And 'outgrown' each other. But to you, at 15, he was 'the one'. Say the high school sweetheart never existed when you were 15. You meet someone at 21 instead. He's studying at university, he's smart and charming. You fall for him, the prospect that he will get a job as an engineer or doctor or some other amazing profession where he can join you in earning money to travel the world, or any other aspiration or dream you have in life. In other words, you find someone with the same dreams as you. But same thing here, you two could graduate and start working and realise you outgrow each other, your careers take hold of you and your minds no longer meet. Or passion simply dies out since you both now work 9-5, 5 days a week. Or your love survives the transition and you do go on that trip around the world and he proposed on top of the Eiffel Tower... But one thing for sure, at 21, he was 'the one'. Ok, now let's say none of this happened at 15 nor 21, you were so focused on building yourself you don't come across anyone until 28. You're sure of where you want to head with your career, building towards your passion. And you meet someone equally successful, or equally close to reaching success. You click. You both understand what it's like to have the lifestyle you do. He treats you like a true gentleman, treats you to dinners and spoils you. He understands you, all your needs and wants, all that you've worked and will continue to work for. He understands. And at 28, he was 'the one'.

MAJOR GIRL CRUSH: SONG JIEUN

Just another angel...



Not sure about the song but the makeup and just her face in general is so gorgeous!! I've previously had a super girl crush on Sunhwa (also from Secret) and I've aways had them two mixed up, they look like twins to me. She looks different though, face is less square if you compare her face to the past.

But she is super gorgeous!!! 

Lavendar Lies

As posted on my 'Style' blog (with additional background information here):

If they don't talk with you,

then they talk about you.

But if you know yourself, then you

won't be harmed by what is said about you.

When stories travel around, your first reaction is to ask what is being said so then you know whether

your reputation is being damaged or not. But as lovely Dr Seuss says: "Those who mind don't matter,

and those who matter don't mind". Your close friends will know who you are and won't believe the

lies that are being told.  The only way this can bother you is that it may damage your ability to meet

new amazing people if there's a negative preconception about you. But wise John Wooden points out

that you should "be more concerned with your character than with your reputation".

When you know yourself enough, people will see past the lies being said about you when they meet

you. The only time you should care about negative gossip is when they are being spread by people

you trust. Then, should you go and investigate whether these people should continue to stay in your

life. I hope this post inspires you, because I've realised I've become a stronger, more confident,

person and I want to spread that love around so less people will be hurt by the negativity that

sometimes comes into their life.